Mayim Bialik has apologized and retracted the op-ed she wrote for New York Times in the wake of the Weinstein debacle. Sadly, the actress who first found fame as the awkward teenager on the program Blossom and currently stars on the Big Bang Theory is being said to have committed "feminist suicide." Most of the advice she offered could easily be applied to persons of either gender. Making "self-protecting and wise" decisions should be encouraged. I am a man, for instance, but I've found myself in situations in the past where my safety was threatened. After multiple scrapes and scratches, I've slowly learned to adapt my actions and behavior to ensure I don't end up in the types of situations where I might find myself in physical danger of some sort.
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In Bialik's essay, she explained that she had never been the victim of sexual harassment herself. She was somewhat guarded after explaining how she preferred not to act flirtatiously with men as a matter of policy and admitted that many young feminists might find her choices "oppressive." She also came under fire for her rhetorical question.
<quote>"Why are we the ones who have to police our behavior?"</quote>
In the end, once again, regardless of gender, it is always <i>you</i> who are responsible for your actions. I am not a big guy, for instance, so I know there are probably certain instances where I should be on especial guard. Other istances, I should most likely avoid outright. Having made foolish, youthful choices in the hopes of "fun" to find nightmares got old eventually for me. I now, like Miz Bialik, police my own behavior.
Maybe it's because I am a bit of an awkward grown-up kid, but I can really relate to Bialik's message about growing up "awkward looking" and offering some "play it safe" advice. I've been accused of acting like someone's grandmother more than once for nothing more than passing on some personal experience I'd discovered helped me "play it safe" myself. I've been told I'm attractive, but it's different with guys. With guys, it's all about confidence, but I can totally understand my childhood 90's kid crush, Blossom, when she explains the "luxury" of being average looking.
I can of course understand how others might find her comments insensitive or inappropriate. Urging propriety and moderation never seems to get too many raucous cheers from the crowd.
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