By Lexy  |  06-06-2018   News
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Melissa Ohden was just fourteen years old when she learned the shocking secret that her mother had tried to abort her.

A nurse saved her life after hearing her crying as she lay among medical waste at a US hospital. This is the story of her survival, and of the mother who thought she was dead.

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"I grew up knowing I'd been born prematurely, that I had been adopted," Melissa Ohden, now 41, says.

"What I didn't know was that there was this great secret behind all of this. That I should have been delivered dead, and instead, I was born alive."

In 1977, in a hospital in Iowa, Melissa's mother, only 19 years old, had undergone an abortion using a toxic saline solution over five days.

Born at eight months and weighing less than three pounds, Melissa was placed among medical waste.

A nurse overheard her weak cries and slight movements.

Melissa was then rushed to an intensive care unit, where, against all odds, she survived.

The doctors thought she would be blind, and at one point believed she had a fatal heart defect.

But she has gone on to live a perfectly healthy life, being brought up by an adoptive family.

"It is astonishing", Melissa admits. "I pinch myself some days."

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Doctors thought Melissa would be left with long-lasting health problems

Melissa has written a book about her experiences and says she only found out she was an abortion survivor when her sister in her adoptive family let it slip during an argument.

"You know Melissa, at least my biological parents wanted me," she had shouted, without thinking.

Melissa was very confused at first but as the realization kicked in, and she sat down with her adoptive parents, it led to a downward spiral in her mental health.

"I turned my pain upon myself," she explains. "It was a lonely place. "I developed an eating disorder, struggled with alcohol abuse. I didn't want to be me."

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Melissa with her sister

The pain mounted, until five years later at the age of 19, she took the bold decision to track down the mother who had aborted her.

It was a process that took more than a decade, but eventually, she found her and discovered a truth that shocked her.

"The biggest secret truly is that my birth mother had spent over 30 years of my life believing I had died that day at the hospital. "She was not told I survived. It was kept a secret from her," she says.

"I was placed for adoption without her ever knowing.

"She never knew if it was a little boy or a little girl she had delivered."

It was for this reason that when they first met face-to-face, three years after they started emailing, Melissa was most struck by the "regret" in her mother's eyes, which she says haunted her for some time.

She struggles to describe the moment they first met but says "it was absolutely surreal.

"It was one of those defining moments of your life."

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Melissa was a teenager when she discovered the truth

There was an additional shock that followed. Her birth mother, Ruth, told her she had never wanted to have an abortion, and that she had been put in a position of feeling forced to go through with the termination.

"What I learned was my grandmother, her mother, was a prominent nurse in the community, and that the local abortionist was a friend of hers.

"Together they literally forced the abortion on my birth mother against her will. "They were able to bypass the hospital regulations and procedures that my birth mother would have had to go through.

"So people at the hospital thought it was her choice, and she had no opportunity to fight back."

Melissa's survival had been even more unlikely as her grandmother, who worked at the hospital where she was born, had instructed her colleagues to "leave the baby in the room to die" that day - a fact she had openly admitted among family members.

"It's not been easy for me to live with," Melissa says, reflecting on her grandmother's comments. "But I'm not angry with her. We all make mistakes in this life. I don't hold that against her.

"My heart breaks for her," she continues, "because I will always wonder what it was in her life that made her take that decision on mine."

Melissa says she is "one of the luckiest people in the world", to not only have survived but also to have both her adoptive parents and her birth mother in her life.

By complete chance, Melissa and her birth mother now live in Kansas City, as well as one of her half-sisters.

They see each other "as often as we possibly can", Melissa says, with joy.

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Melissa, age 18

"My biological family is a huge part of my life."

It means that having seen the regret in her mother's eyes on that first meeting two years ago, she now gets "to experience her joy".

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Melissa (right) with her adoptive mom, their dog Laddie, and sister Tammy in 1978

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Melissa with her husband and two daughters

Melissa Ohden is a pro-life public speaker and founder of the Abortion Survivors Network. Her book, <a href="https://www.plough.com/en/topics/life/relationships/you-carried-me"> You Carried Me: A Daughter's Memoir</a>, is out now.

Related Sources:

https://www.bbc.com/news/health-44357373; https://www.womansday.com/relationships/family-friends/a57514/i-survived-my-mothers-abortion/

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Not2far2right No. 28007 1528253469

Really impactful story. Abortion is a scourge.

Joel No. 28008 1528253692

Great article. Wondering if the grandmother should be charged with attempted murder?

J. Harjo No. 28009 1528253983

Heart wrenching story. I am amazed at this woman for being so forgiving. Just wow. Abortion is a hideous thing. Great article.

Kevin No. 28010 1528255140

Just incredible. Praise God.

Mona No. 28015 1528268414

Heart-wretching story but with a strength that is amazing for all, strength of a young woman to climb from dispair of abandonment to find her birth mother and strength of the birth mother to endure years of regret and get to love the child she thought was gone

DA No. 28027 1528289701

What an awesome story Lexy. What an important voice in this fight to make America (& the world) see what they're doing.

Michael M. No. 28028 1528291311

Great story Lexy. I cannot imagine anyone reading this story and not 2nd guess the concept of abortion.

Michael M. No. 28012 1528292490

Great story Lexy. I cannot imagine anyone reading this story and not 2nd guess the concept of abortion.

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